Based on the information I gathered about feral cats, they hardly trust humans, but when they do trust, how do you find out?
In this post, I’ll be sharing some common signs a feral cat trusts you and what you can do to gain their trust.
So, keep reading to find out more…
Signs a Feral Cat Trusts You
When it comes to feral cats, trust is not easily earned, however, there are a few signs that indicate a feral cat is beginning to trust you.
These signs include extended periods of relaxed body language, approaching you without fear or hesitation, and even allowing gentle touches or petting.
Keep in mind that building trust with a feral cat requires patience, consistency, and respect for their boundaries.
Based on my understanding of feral cats, I will break the signs of trust into three, which are as follows:
Initial signs a feral cat trusts you
In my opinion, here are some initial signs of trust, showing a feral cat trusts you:
1. Approaching you when you come around
When a feral cat begins to trust you, one of the first signs you may notice is their increased comfort in approaching you.
Initially, they might keep their distance, but as trust grows, they may come closer when you’re nearby.
They might cautiously approach you, keeping a safe distance, and observing your actions.
This indicates they are beginning to associate your presence with safety and security.
To identify this sign, look for the cat gradually closing the gap between you and them.
You may notice them lingering nearby, watching your movements with a curious yet cautious demeanor.
I strongly advise you to try and respect their boundaries and avoid making sudden movements or loud noises that could startle them.
2. Relaxed body language when around you
Most feral cats are known for their defensive and tense body language, however, as trust develops, you may notice a change in their posture and overall demeanor.
A feral cat beginning to trust you will display more relaxed body language when in your presence.
Look for signs such as a loose and non-rigid body posture, with their tail held low or gently swaying from side to side.
They may also exhibit more open and friendly body language, such as rolling onto their back or stretching their legs.
These relaxed behaviors indicate that they feel comfortable and safe in your presence.
3. Making eye contact and slow blinking
Eye contact is a powerful indicator of trust in both humans and animals, feral cats, for example, being naturally cautious, may initially avoid direct eye contact.
However, as trust builds between them and humans, they may start making brief eye contact with you and even engage in slow blinking.
Based on the information I gathered, if a feral cat looks directly at you and then slowly blinks, it is a sign that they feel at ease around you.
This slow blinking behavior is often referred to as a “cat kiss” or a “kitty blink.” By returning the slow blink, you can communicate your own trust and affection towards the feral cat.
4. Meowing or vocalizing when around you
Feral cats are typically silent creatures, relying more on body language to communicate.
However, as trust develops for you, they may start vocalizing more when they are around you, this trust can manifest as soft meowing, purring, or chirping sounds.
When a feral cat vocalizes around you, it indicates that they see you as a source of comfort and companionship, they may be seeking attention or simply expressing their contentment.
Responding with gentle and soothing tones can further reinforce the trust they are beginning to place in you.
Related: where do stray cats sleep?
Intermediate signs a feral cat trust you
In my opinion, here are some intermediate signs of trust, showing a feral cat trusts you:
1. Allowing petting or touch when you come around them
One of the most significant signs that a feral cat is starting to trust you is when they allow petting or touch.
Initially, feral cats may be wary of human touch due to their past experiences or fear of vulnerability.
However, as trust develops, they may become more receptive to physical contact.
To identify this sign, observe the feral cat’s response when you attempt to pet or touch them.
If they lean into your hand, purr, or remain still, it suggests that they are comfortable with your touch.
Some feral cats may even seek out physical interaction by rubbing against your hand or leg.
I advise you to approach them gently and respect their boundaries, allowing them to dictate the extent and duration of physical contact.
2. Rubbing against you when you come around them
Feral cats have scent glands on their cheeks and bodies, and when they rub against you, they are marking you with their scent.
This behavior, known as “bunting,” is a significant sign of trust and affection.
To identify this sign, whenever you are around you should observe if the feral cat rubs against your legs, ankles, or even your hands.
They may also rub their face against objects that you frequently touch, like trees or doorways.
This behavior is their way of claiming you as part of their territory and establishing a bond.
Embrace this gesture by offering a gentle stroke or scratch behind their ears.
3. Following you when you come around them
When a feral cat begins to trust you, they may start following you around, showing a desire for your company.
This behavior signifies that they feel secure and safe when you are present.
To identify this sign, whenever you are around you should take note if the feral cat starts to trail behind you, whether indoors or outdoors.
They may walk beside you or a few steps behind, maintaining a certain level of proximity.
This behavior demonstrates their growing trust in you as they choose to be near you.
Acknowledge their presence by speaking softly and offering reassuring gestures.
4. Playing in your presence
Playfulness is a natural behavior in cats, and when a feral cat feels comfortable enough to play in your presence, it is a positive sign of trust.
Play serves as an outlet for their energy and a way to bond with you when they are around you.
To identify this sign, you should observe the feral cat’s behavior during playtime.
They may initiate play by pouncing on toys, chasing after objects, or engaging in interactive play with you.
Playful behavior shows that they see you as a source of fun and enjoyment.
Encourage their playfulness by providing toys and interactive games, allowing them to express their trust and build a stronger bond.
Related: Behaviors of an adopted stray cat.
Advanced signs a feral cat trusts you
In my opinion, here are some advanced signs of trust, showing a feral cat trusts you:
1. Exposing their belly around you when you come around them
When a feral cat feels safe and secure in your presence, they may exhibit a vulnerable behavior by exposing their belly to you.
This gesture is a sign of trust, as the belly is a sensitive area that cats typically protect.
To identify this sign, you should try to observe if the feral cat rolls onto their back, exposing their belly when you approach.
This indicates that they feel comfortable enough to let their guard down.
However, I advise you to approach this gesture cautiously, as not all cats enjoy belly rubs.
You should respect their boundaries and allow them to initiate physical contact if they desire.
2. Bringing you “gifts”
While it may seem unusual to humans, feral cats may occasionally bring you “gifts” as an act of trust and gratitude.
These “gifts” are typically small prey, such as a mouse or bird and they will offer it to you when you come around or even bring it to your house.
To identify this sign, you should keep an eye out for any small animals left near your doorstep or in places where the feral cat frequents.
It’s their way of sharing their resources and showing appreciation for your presence.
While it may not be the most pleasant gift for humans, it’s important to acknowledge their gesture without showing displeasure, as it may discourage further acts of trust.
3. Grooming in front of you when you come around them
Grooming is an essential behavior for cats to maintain their cleanliness and bond with others.
When a feral cat grooms themselves in your presence, it indicates a level of comfort and trust.
To identify this sign, you should observe if the feral cat starts grooming themselves when you are nearby.
They may lick their fur, particularly in hard-to-reach areas, and this behavior is a demonstration of their trust in your presence and their willingness to engage in self-care.
It’s a positive sign that they feel secure enough to engage in vulnerable activities while you are present.
4. Sleeping near you when you come around them
Cats are known for their selective sleeping spots, often choosing secure and comfortable areas.
When a feral cat starts to sleep near you, it signifies a high level of trust and contentment.
To identify this sign, you should observe if the feral cat chooses to rest or sleep in close proximity to you.
They may curl up nearby or even seek out a cozy spot on your property.
This behavior indicates that they feel safe and relaxed in your presence, as cats are vulnerable when they sleep.
You should respect their space, and provide a comfortable environment that can further strengthen their trust in you.
Related: Why cats hang around your house.
How to get a feral cat to trust you
Getting a feral cat to trust you is a process that demands patience, understanding, and a gentle approach.
You should begin by offering food, as feral cats are often drawn to a reliable source of sustenance.
Once the feral cat feels comfortable eating near you, gradually increase your proximity and interaction.
Always make sure you move slowly towards them so that you can avoid sudden movements, which can startle them.
I strongly advise you to establish a routine, so they know when to expect your visits and can feel more secure.
As they become more comfortable, you can start to pet them gently and reward their trust with treats.
You should gradually introduce yourself by sitting nearby, speaking softly, and offering enticing treats or toys, food, water, and shelter.
Finally, you should use positive reinforcement, rewarding the cat with treats or gentle strokes when it shows signs of comfort or curiosity.
Ultimately, building trust with a feral cat requires respect, understanding, and a willingness to let the cat set the pace.
Final Thoughts
In summary, when it comes to feral cats, trust is a precious gift. If you notice your feline friend showing relaxed body language, making eye contact, and allowing gentle touch, congratulations!
These signs indicate that your bond with the feral cat is growing stronger, and trust is blossoming between you.
Keep nurturing this relationship with patience, love, and respect, and watch as the trust between you and your feline companion continues to flourish.
